PSYCHOSEXUAL COACHING

The commonly held belief is that we're all born with an innate ability to become fully functioning sexual beings the minute the 'right' life partner is found (and certainly not before). The truth is rather different. People need to learn to experience their own sexuality in its fullest potential, but how. Funny isn't it how we're sent into education for twelve or so years of our lives but somehow expected to just know about sex.

Some learn from a string of lovers, good and bad; Others learn by making many mistakes and trying to overcome them; some lucky adolescents receive information from their parents or teachers; but most of us trundle along never really getting there. As you can imagine, most of these methods are fraught with problems and potential for heartache and disappointment. Can you remember the excitement that filled you before the first time you had sex, only to be left wondering what the fuss was all about.

Or worse still, many people as they go through their lives gain more and more sexual baggage as a result of failed or abusive relationships with sexual partners. The end result can be loss of interest in sex, fear resulting in one or more of numerous psychological, physical and even spiritual problems, and so the pattern continues. Negative attitudes can be passed on to children (usually unconsciously), and thus another generation of unsatisfied and unfulfilled adults leading intimate and/or sex-free lives ready to pass their unhappy sexual messages on to their children.

The aim of the Centre for Sexual Wellbeing is to meet adults at whatever stage of their lives and help them to gain a fuller understanding of their individual sexuality. This sometimes involves teaching, or un-learning, or merely providing information. For others getting rid of some of that baggage is necessary in order to allow them to communicate, sexually and otherwise, with their partner(s) and themselves.

I am a sexologist and sex educator with twenty-five years of experience in the field of sexuality in the UK, USA and South Africa, as well as online. My training in the fields of education, psychology, counselling and psychotherapy allow me the facility to provide a service with a sense of uniqueness for each client.

Psychosexual coaching is the term I use for the form of treatment I have developed to help people further their own personal sexual process. As a guide I accompany individuals, couples and groups on their journey of sexual exploration. Where appropriate I offer a guiding hand in the form of information and resource direction or a safe, empathic place for them to work through issues and plan the route ahead.

I do not view this work as an analysis of the past, instead it is your journey forward with an experienced guide to travel with you towards your own specific goals and desires. Sometimes it will be necessary to draw on your past, but more often we will be looking forwards towards your hopes and dreams. This can be achieved in a choice of mediums.

Firstly, there is face-2-face coaching for individuals or couples, which I offer from in East Sussex or London. The experience of couples in particular shows that this is an opportunity to work through issues in a safe place, with somebody to guide them through difficulties.

For those of you who'd like the opportunity to experience sexual guiding but are not suitably located geographically, I do offer online consultations via a series of e-mail communications.

I also offer a telephone service, by prior appointment.

Sometimes people find that they'd like to combine these forms of guiding into a programme that is suitable to their lifestyle. In addition you may choose to opt for one of the workshops we have available.